One Saturday morning, I received a call from a friend asking me about a rather easy question. Easy, in a sense that it doesn't take a genius to give a logical answer. But since our reason is often clouded by what we see on the outside, we get disoriented. Hence, the meaning gets lost in the process. Ironically, I believe that the most simple questions are in fact, the most complicated...
I just couldn't believe that the question I have asked an "experienced" friend for ages was thrown back at me. I had been in a similar situation a couple of moons ago. And there was no one there to enlighten me. So when this weekend caller woke me up from my self-induced slumber, I immediately accepted the challenge since I want to save one female specie from falling prey to unscrupulous men who don't seem to know the difference between black and white.
This caller is categorized under the NBSB type. ( No Boyfriend Since Birth, dummy!) Her curious question was: HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN A GUY LIKES YOU? I wanted to tell her that she dialed the wrong number but since the tone of her voice was verging on suicidal, I gave her my objective take on the matter.
1. FREQUENT CALLS DON'T MEAN A THING. I will swear by this. A long time ago, I thought phone calls counted. My argument was, why would a guy waste his precious time talking to a girl if there was no attraction at all? Oh please, after burning the phone lines with a few men, I made a conclusion that it simply meant, they had no one else to talk to so they opted for the person who was always available, and sadly, it was me. There's nothing special about phone calls. And sometimes, it is such a waste of time..
2. SWEET-NOTHING TEXTS DON'T COUNT EITHER. I have fallen victim to this a number of times. It never fails to bring shivers though. There is always that kilig factor, as we love to call it. The funny thing is, a guy who texts "I MISS YOU" but can't say it up front is a coward! There's no other word to put it. These things should be verbalized, not typed. There is no sincerity in the written word, unless it's a letter written straight from the heart.
3. GOING OUT ON "PLATONIC" DATES DOES NOT COUNT EVEN. You may have gone out three times, watched movies, dined out, all that very usual stuff, but if the guy continues to keep you in the dark as to what you are to each other, it is nothing. I don't believe that going out has a romantic side to it, unless the man tells you that he likes you and he wants to take the "platonic" friendship to another level. Otherwise, don't assume. Just take advantage of the free food and free movie tickets. Magsasawa din yan. LOL!
There are a whole lot more signs that I would include in this list but I'd rather not in the meantime. When I have so much to say, I'd rather keep my mouth shut. There may just be a few who will stumble into this note and feel alluded to. The bottomline is, if there's nothing there to begin with, why take the first step? Drop it before it gets too late..
